As with all professions out there, there are some amazing people working in the medical field, yet there are also some really horrible ones who leave you wondering how did you make it this far?
I, myself, have had a handful of both, but I can tell you that I will never forget some of the terrible things people in the medical field have said to me. Here are some of the worst comments I’ve received:
- From an orthopedic surgeon in Uppsala, Sweden: “Well, you just look like there’s nothing wrong with you; then, I took at look at your X-ray, and, well yeah…” Then, she proceeded to tell me I was fine and I didn’t need any pain-killers after falling off the bed. There could have been a language or cultural barrier here, who knows. I don’t think she was trying to be rude about my condition, but it came off that way. I realize I do not look like I have scoliosis because I’ve had two surgeries, but I definitely do. Just because I do not look like I have scoliosis doesn’t mean I am not in pain. Underestimating the pain and not taking it into account is completely insensitive.
- From a 60+ X-ray technician at Kaiser Permanente Hospital in Oakland, CA: “WOW, you are more crooked than I am. How are you even able to move?” If you have nothing nice to say, then do not say anything at all. Please keep your comments to yourself. I do not need to know what you think about my condition or how it’s in any way related to you.
- From an orthopedic surgeon at George Washington Medical Center in Washington, D.C. “Yeah, it looks like you are going to just have to learn how to live with your pain. I can’t do anything for you.” Man, does it suck to hear that your doctor has no clue what to do with you. It’s completely okay not to know, but it hurts to feel like they are not even trying. I’ve suffered through pain my entire life. It would be nice to see a doctor that would be able to provide some solutions, instead of just hearing that I have to “learn how to live with it.”
- From a neurosurgeon at George Washington Medical Center in Washington, D.C. “Haha, wow! You have really limited sensation on half your body.” Then, he called in a surgeon buddy, “Hey, you have to come see this patient.” He walked in and they both proceed to examine me like a lab rat. I believe that I shouldn’t have to say this, but it saddens me that I do have to mention it, because I was a victim of it—as a medical professional, this entire scenario is completely unacceptable.
- From a general practitioner at Kaiser Permanente in Oakland, CA: “I never give this much time off for just a fall. I’ve given you more time than I give people who have had surgery. You need to suck it up and go to work.” He said this to me after I fell down a set of concrete stairs and couldn’t move. I thought I was going to be stuck that way forever. It was horrible. Yet, I was just another patient with scoliosis. He didn’t see the person. He only saw the diagnosis and decided to use his cookie-cutter formula on me, which wasn’t working. I was in so much pain and he did nothing to help me through it. If you have a patient with scoliosis, remember that they may not be just like the last patient you saw with scoliosis. We are not all exactly the same and we shouldn’t be treated that way. Your job is to make sure we are both physically and mentally capable of being okay.
- From a physical therapist at Kaiser Permanente in Oakland, CA: “ There’s nothing else I can show you, you’ve basically graduated from physical therapy.” Meanwhile, I was still walking with a cane, after falling down the stairs, and could barely hold myself together. Thank you for nothing. It’s so hard to go on when all your doctors are giving up on you. Your patients are your responsibility, and so is their well-being. Remember that sometimes what they need is a little more cheerleading to know they can make it through to a full recovery. Don’t just abandon them halfway through the marathon.
What’s the worse thing a doctor has ever said to you?
14 thoughts on “6 Comments Made by Medical Professionals That I Wish I could Forget”
I wish I could know you better. Keep strong 💕❤
Hey you! Do you have scoliosis?
Most doctors say they cannot do much to help my pain either. Have you tried OMT (orthopedic massage therapy)? I am in pain everyday too. Walking and a heating pad are the only things that relieve it even a little. I also have OMT every couple of months.
Oh, man, I didn’t know that orthopedic massage therapy was a thing! It sounds amazing! Can you do it while pregnant? I am 12 weeks and kind of terrified of the future pain level. I will look to see if I can find one here. Thank you so much for the suggestion. Sending a lots of happy thoughts your way!
Yes, I had OMT the whole time I was pregnant. By the way, you probably know this, but you will probably have too much scar tissue from the surgery to have an epidural. I ended up having a C-section, and they completely knocked me out for it.
Also, my back felt pretty good most of the time that I was pregnant. The doctor said it was because of something that is released in the body during pregnancy (Maybe elastin? I can’t remember now.).
I also have scoliosis and have had the fusion surgery. These comments make me so angry! I find most GP’s don’t know what to do with me and have had similar experiences over the years and many ignorant comments. Big hugs! Louise X
It’s so horrible. I often feel like doctors do not see the person. We are just labeled by a condition and that’s it. I want to believe that they didn’t start out that way, you know. Like somehow they’ve been tainted by their years of practice. I hope that it changes as years pass by. When did you have surgery?
I had the surgery 7 years ago now 🙂 yeah I hope it changes too x
I don’t wish I could know you better. Your writing tells all – love d
I try to put it all out there. It’s the best way to build awareness about a condition: to be raw and honest. I hope you’re doing well. Big hug your way!
An orthopedic surgeon looked at my x-ray and told me I had the spine of an 80 year old man when I was 30. A chiropractor said to me I am surprised you haven’t found a cave and crawled up in to it.
Wow! I can’t believe they said that to you! It’s so discouraging when medical professionals do not realize their own influence on their patients! How are you doing now?
Ugh, man, that’s just do discouraging. I’m sorry you had to go through that